This week’s Escape Plan challenge (aka our Tip of the Week) is #16: Family Tree Trivia: Call or meet with someone in your family and ask them a question you are curious about regarding your family’s history.
A lesson I learned early on from my husband (boyfriend, at the time) is that the easiest way to strengthen a relationship is to ask sincere questions… then shut up and listen to the answers. Anyone who knows Jason knows that if you have more than a three minute conversation with him, you will soon be asked a question that will take the conversation to a whole new level. Questions like, “So, what’s your favorite part about your job?” or “What’s something about your profession that most people would be surprised to find out?” What probably started for reasons associated with a strong disdain for “small-talk” has evolved into a finding that people love to talk about themselves and be listened to. It sure makes interacting a lot more fun when people are enjoying themselves… and not always relying on discussions about the weather or the most recent natural disaster.
Ironically, our family members are often the ones we know the least about, simply because assumptions are made that we already know everything… like how your parents met? Where did they go on their first date or their honeymoon? Moms love sharing details about the day of your birth. Grandmas love sharing details about when your parent was a teenager. There are so many stories to be told!
Asking questions allows for the opportunity to learn and grow closer to the ones you love. Have fun making that call or visit this week. Share with us in the comments of the Escape Plan Blog what you learned by asking a simple and heartfelt question.
This reminds me of the story of how my grandmother (Dad’s mom) met and married my grandfather. He worked for the railroad and wasn’t always around much – and she was interested in another fellow that was around a little more. She actually was more interested in the “other fellow” – but then he was killed in the 1918 Flu Pandemic and she “settled” for my grandfather. The joke in the family is that my father and aunt (and everyone else) are here “because of the great flu pandemic of 1918!”
Carol Pickering says
Dear Kim and Jason,
I think you are both delightful and I thank you for coming to Good Shepherd Catholic Church in Alexandria, VA! Singing my little song for you was SO HARD! You have pointed out to me how infected I am with Adultitis! I will buy your book and share it for our book of the month club. If I weren’t such a wuss, I would have been able to get a signed copy from you directly. I’m looking forward to the “cure”!! Good luck in your efforts to lighten up the over-stressed! Sincerely, Carol Pickering
What a GREAT story!! :)
Who knew the flu pandemic would bring about such positive results. Just goes to show ya, everything happens for a reason.
It was a pleasure meeting you- and hearing your fabulous song!